Acts of Compassion #AFundForJennie

fundraiser for Jennifer Perillo
“I was thirsty you gave me something to drink. I was a stranger and you invited me in.”

When many of us in the food blogging community learned of the tragic loss of Jennifer Perillo’s husband, Mikey, we felt the compelling need to give something of ourselves. We banned together in great numbers and reached out to each other and to Jennie with prayers, words of hope, and images of compassion.  Thousands of us followed Jennie’s simple suggestion of baking a peanut butter pie in remembrance of her beloved. The baking and sharing words of support via the #apieforMikey Twitter meme, soothed our collective ache of grief.

Late Friday night I received an email from my big-hearted friend, Shauna from Gluten Free Girl. She asked via a moving letter if a handful of trusted friends would be available to help participate in an effort to raise money for Jennie. Her email explained that with Mikey gone, Jennie faces some rather significant challenges in the not-so-distant future. Their medical insurance will end in December. The policy’s monthly renewal rate will cost more than the family’s monthly mortgage.

Shauna suggested we offer up gifts of ourselves–a service, a food item, a piece of art–for a fund raising auction. Thanks to the assistance of a non-profit organization called Bloggers Without Borders, every item auctioned off will result in real dollars to be donated into a fund created specifically for Jennifer and her two little girls.

Donate to Bloggers Without Borders

In case you haven’t heard of Bloggers Without Borders yet, it’s because it is a newly formed non-profit organization for bloggers, by bloggers. Co-founded by my friend and accountability partner, Maggy Keet (Three Many Cooks) and Erika Pineda-Ghanny (Ivory Hut), this non-profit organization strives to use the diverse resources of bloggers to help other bloggers and people in need.

You can follow what’s happening on Twitter with #AFundforJennie. #AFundforJennie is a call to action for anyone willing to give generously of themselves via donations of money or of items of self. This fundraiser is our chance to step beyond what feels comfortable and give in a more substantive way.

To make a direct donation now, click that big BWOB DONATE button above.

A piece of me for a friend in need

As a restaurant consultant, I am in the business of service. I help restaurant owners and leadership teams focus on their long-term vision for their business, empower staff, and educate teams on how to give great service to customers. The more I teach the art of customer service, the more I realize that the work I do has roots in the ancient teachings of compassion and generosity. Great spiritual teachers throughout the ages teach the need to make a purposeful effort to improve the conditions of others. The lesson is simple: if we want to have happy and fruitful in business and in our lives, we have to be generous of spirit and give of ourselves authentically.

So when you live a life of service, there isn’t space for hesitating when you are called to be of assistance to a friend in need. All there is room for is YES, WHEN, and HOW MUCH. You just do it. Continue reading “Acts of Compassion #AFundForJennie”

A Love Letter for Jennifer Perillo

tomato avocado and pumpernickle sandwich recipe

“If a you drop a big enough rock into still waters, the ripples will spread out wide enough to rock a boat clear across the lake.”
–Pema Chodron

Jennifer Perillo’s life changed this Sunday when she lost her husband Mikey from a sudden heart attack.  Like a meteor striking the ocean, the magnitude of this food writer’s loss sent ripples of grief across the food community as friends shared their sadness for Jennifer and her family. People who knew Jennifer well–and even perfect strangers–felt those waves of heartache collide with their every-day serenity within minutes of receiving the news.

I’ve spent the past few days praying for Jennifer and her girls. I’ve written ten different letters to Jenny and erased most of them, worrying I’d mess it all up some how. I watched a beautiful video of Jennifer’s husband dancing with his little girl and surrendered to fat tears. I ate a Geo plum on the back stoop of my apartment and watched how the sunlight glistened on its blushy pulp. I enjoyed the sweet perfume of the morning breeze.  I cried, talked to friends, and reconnected with loved ones.I made two simple sandwiches of avocado and tomato and waited for my husband to come home. I thanked God for the chance to have another day.
Right now, ripples of sadness and hope emanate across the country from a single point in New York. Thousands of people connected by words and shared experiences, feel the impact of the waves of grief for Jennifer and her two little girls.  Today, however, in kitchens across the country, people are turning their grief into hope by baking up a version of Mikey’s favorite peanut butter pie in a show of support.

Regardless if you are a baker or not, or have time to bake up a pie, today is exactly the right day to think about giving a little extra love to the people you care about. Do something simple, honest, and true today for your beloved ones. Make a peanut butter pie. Make an open faced sandwich with tomatoes from your garden. Kiss a forehead. Hug a friend. Pat your dog. Savor every bite and each sweet breath.

My prayers are with Jennifer and her family. I pray for grace, love, and healing for everyone who feels these ripples of grief.

Heirloom Tomato and Avocado Sandwich recipe
Heirloom Tomato and Avocado Sandwich

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An Avocado and Heirloom Tomato Sandwich for Jennifer P.

Pumpernickle bread, sliced and toasted (or your favorite bread)
Avocado, all ripe and halved
Heirloom tomato, also ripe and sliced thick
Mayo, the best you’ve got
Crystal hot sauce (or anything with a kick)
Maldon sea salt
Fresh black pepper

Toast your bread. Slather it with mayonnaise. Spoon out half of an avocado for each large slice of bread. Sprinkle with hot sauce. Top with a tomato slice. Garnish with salt and pepper. Serve open faced. Eat slowly.

Enjoy the one you’re with.